I refused for a long time to face the idea that a lot of my k!nks come from past trauma. I didn’t want it to be, as it would mean that I wasn’t over them - that I couldn’t walk away from them - that I would allow them to still affect my present - that I couldn’t enjoy myself without a dark undertone, an edge I could fall off at every second. I didn’t want to participate in that narrative that k!nky people are broken people. I worked at a s3x-shop for most of last year. And more and more, I was uncomfortable with the way k!nky s3x is still being sold, even among us. Dark, violent, manly, h e a v y. Miles away from my actual experience. A playfulness, a sense of relief, a bloom. I don’t want to say that trauma has pushed me to grow. Growth is not to be pushed, it is to be nurtured. But facing the fact that it happened, and there’s nothing I can do to change it, if not accept it, and find peace moving forward, without self-judgement, guilt or shame, has shifted the whole narrative. For the better, I hope, from a rosepup in blossom to you. #clubkid #dragqueen #puppy #klauswiekind wiekind #dragmakeup #photography #florals #puppymask #lace @qwerrrkout