Something I’ve come across and feel like everybody should be reminded of: “Why do you self sabotage? You self sabotage because you made a decision a long time ago to never be vulnerable again. It was an unconscious decision, a decision you probably don’t remember making in reaction to something that happened to you in your past that was overwhelmingly painful. So painful you resolved to never feel it again by refusing to do anything that might bring about that pain. So you vowed to: never again ask for what you need, never open your heart, never trust, never be here all the way, never show the truth of who you really are. It was the perfect way to protect yourself and regain some control, at a time when you felt powerless. That decision, that defense is still running your life with vigilance. So when you reach for love, growth, expansion, that part of you wakes up thinking you’re in danger and puts a stop to it through procrastination, addiction, isolation, avoidance, perfectionism, but it’s really just fear. Fear of being hurt again. The realization is the understanding that even though the child could not feel that pain, you as an adult can and you must, if you want to live, love and be free.” #cintalaurakiehl #actoflove