How To Predict A Break Up Is Coming: Did you know psychologists can tell when a break up is coming. We can tell when a divorce is loading too. How? We look at something called “failed bids for connection/attention” which explains one partner trying to get more attention, a need met and/or problem solved but gets repeatedly ignored. This leads to break up and divorce because who can emotionally remain in a relationship/marriage where your needs are repeatedly ignored or neglected? So, what people do is begin to disconnect out of necessity. Why ask for something you have little to no chance to get? Quite naturally, you withdraw or leave for peace of mind and self-protection. Bottom Line- Respond quickly when your spouse expresses a need or want so your relationship or marriage doesn’t experience disconnection.