Couples Should Discuss Marital Intimacy: All couples must have the critical conversation about having great intimacy and lovemaking for a lifetime. Here are a few of the issues couples need to discuss and address to be happy at home. For those of you who took the opportunity to pour into your marriage at the retreat, smile. For those who need to, make the decision to do that for yourself today. At least show this video to your spouse/lover and have the necessary conversation about how to be the straw that stirs your partner’s coffee for a lifetime.