Some parents are kind, but not firm. Others are firm, but not kind. ⁣ ⁣ Kindness without firmness is permissive. Firmness without kindness is punitive. ⁣ ⁣ ❌Many parents flip-flop between the two—being too kind and then too firm. ⁣ ⁣ Parents who are drawn to gentle parenting tend to focus on kindness. Some, remember their childhood experiences and promise they will never be as strict as their parents. However, being kind without being firm can be a problem too. ⁣ ⁣ WHAT TO DO?⁣ ⁣ ✔️When managing unwanted behaviours always include the AND ( or if you prefer BUT). ⁣ ⁣ “I know you’re disappointed it’s time to leave the park AND/BUT I’m sorry but it’s time to go.”⁣ ⁣ “You’re angry your sister grabbed your toy. I understand AND/BUT it’s not okay to pull your sister’s hair.” ⁣ ⁣ “You’re sad it’s time to get ready for bed. I get it AND/BUT it’s bedtime.”⁣ ⁣ ✔️Kind AND Firm. Yes, it’s possible to be both.⁣ ⁣ ✨All families have them, those big, emotional moments that can feel so overwhelming. When these moments catch us off guard, it can be tough to know how to react. We’re here to help. Get our FREE tame tantrums *without losing your cool* lesson. LINK IN BIO✨⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #toddlertips⁣ #toddlertantrums #toddlerstruggles #toddlertips⁣ ⁣ #toddlerlife #toddlersofinstagram ⁣#toddleractivities #toddlers ⁣ #toddlermom #toddler #positiveparenting #consciousparenting ⁣ #toddlermommy #gentleparenting⁣ #toddleryears ⁣