TW: Rape/Sexual Assualt. • I guess we’re about to get real personal. • • I’ve gone back and forth about posting this but the rage I’m feeling is insatiable. The amount of abuse I’m seeing directed at Harriet Robson (despite clear evidence), is really very harrowing, alongside the ignorance of questions like “why didn’t she just leave?” “why didn’t she come out with it all sooner?” Well, maybe here’s some help with those. • • I’ve experienced the above in three very different situations. • • When I was 17 years old, I was raped in a bathroom at a house party. I wasn’t new to sex, and people considered me to be a sexually confident person. It was someone I believed myself to be attracted to, but yet when it came down to it - something felt very, very wrong and I didn’t want to go through with it. I voiced that. It wasn’t well received, and how I felt/what I wanted was deemed irrelevant as he had made the decision that it was happening regardless. Afterwards I told two friends. They asked if he was just drunk, if I had led him on, or if he just had the “wrong idea”. I don’t blame them. It’s what we’ve been taught. He didn’t. I had been very clear. As people know, I’m fairly direct. But it was enough to make me feel like it was my fault, and shamed into not wanting to speak to anyone else about it. So I blamed myself and shut up and that was that. • ...continued in comments (towards the bottom) ⬇️