Why You Should NOT Continue a Relationship When Someone Refuses To Apologize (Even Family) I see so many clients who struggle in family and romantic relationships with someone who caused psychological harm and have the nerve to 1) Get upset when you ask for an apology or 2) Act like it never happened or feel like you just get over it because it already happened. This is offensive to your ego and soul because it communicates that you should get used to being mistreated and continue on in the relationship/family like you deserved the mistreatment or should just get over it because it makes them uncomfortable when you confront them. Family may tell you to forgive but it is toxic to forgive someone who is unrepentant. You are setting yourself up for a lifetime of abuse that way. Doesn’t God require repentance for forgiveness? What To Do: Draw the boundary. Tell your family member or spouse that you will no longer fake like the deed didn’t happen for their well-being because it is killing your soul. Simply, stop speaking with them or give them the emotional distance they warrant based off of the refusal to apologize or half apology. Allow them to see and feel your boundary so they have yo accept reality... What you did to me hurts and still hurts and you should apologize if you truly value you me now. They will have to deal with necessary conflict and choose to: 1) Let you go because they want to double down on insulting you (act & refusal to apologize) or 2) Change their ways to prove they see and feel you and make amends. Never give someone permission to mistreat you, refuse to apologize and still have relationship with you. This is low self-esteem. Draw the boundary and challenge them to repent or stay distant or out of your life. I pray this helps and sets many of you free from family members and lovers who never apologize or accept accountability for the harm they caused. #drtartt #healingfromtrauma #blackpsychologist