Naturally, when our feelings get hurt or something our partner does is bothering us we know what it is, and we might even be very clear on what we want from them. But making requests of our partners must also be balanced by a willingness of our own. This is where we’re called to really do some inner-work. We also have to be ready to look at our behaviours, thoughts, and ways of expressing ourselves that may contribute to the pattern we’re both trying to break. Our inner-child is always with us in relationship, but we have to step into our wise adult to lead. As long as we are making demands, throwing tantrums, or expecting our partner to make all of the change while we sit back in our perfection and righteousness, we’re not going to get anywhere. Trust me, I am very good at criticizing my partner. I know all of the ways he “needs to change” and I can always give him a detailed report on the ways he should shift his energy so I can feel happier but when it comes to what I need to do in order for the pattern to shift, I usually have to work to get there. Here are some journaling prompts I use: Things I’m willing to change/give/learn/let go of” in order to step into the next evolution of my relationship. What do I want to feel with my partner? What would I have to let go of in order to have this experience? What am I willing to give in order to have this experience? What am I personally doing to contribute to this pattern we’re in? What energy might I need to cultivate within myself to create a shift between us? What can I commit to learning so we can shift the pattern? To have what we want in relationship, we both have to be ready to step into whatever it takes to create that experience. It’s so much easier to look outward than it is to look in, but the happiest people are the ones who acknowledge their own innate power to create a personal heaven or hell within their partnerships and hold themselves to the same standards they hold their partner. Good luck everyone! :) 🌿 @sheleanaaiyana