before & after in previous reel 🖼️ did you know we all have an essential self and a social self? the essential self is who we truly are—temperament, quirks, and all; and our social self is our learned, people-pleasing self, molded by society along with our parents, peers, and professors. ‘if your feelings about life in general are fraught with discontent, anxiety, frustration, anger, boredom, numbness or despair, your social and essential selves are not in sync.’ —Finding your own North Star by Martha Beck to gauge your social-essential self connection, the book provides 25 questions to see how strongly you believe with each. here are ones I didn’t answer 100% yes to, aka ones I want to work on the most: 🌷 I play (hence this reel 🥹) 🎨 I do things I loved when I was a kid 💛 I feel overwhelmed with gratitude 🙇🏻‍♀️ I get so involved in projects I forget to stop 🐬 I feel mentally sharp and alert 💡 I have really cool ideas 😀 I get excited when it’s time to go to work ✳️ I do new things, or old things in new ways 🗿 I’m completely relaxed with other people (check my stories to see the full list!)