Our children need to hear that they are good and loveable, especially when they're in a difficult stage. Children are always noticing what versions of themselves their parents are reflecting back - then they take in this version of who they are and act it out. And when kids are in tough stages... well, it's easy to get into an awful cycle with a child where a parent is further reinforcing the very part of a child they're trying to help a child shift out of, by reflecting back a version of this child who is bad, selfish, un-connectable. I know none of us want to reflect back this version of our child. And so when you're in a tough stage with your child, try out the words in this post. Remind yourself that under bad behavior is a good kid who is struggling and in pain. This is true 100% of the time. We need to assert that we will restrict some behaviors. We can even say that we don't like some behaviors. But then we must follow up and remind our child that even when they inevitably engage in that list of behaviors, we can see our child’s goodness. Our kids are waiting for this. They can’t change without it. ⭐️ Do you feel like your child is just stuck in a “bad” behavior phase? Does it feel like nothing you’re doing is helping? I get it. You’re not alone and I can help. My workshop, Conquering Problem Behaviors will empower you with every tool you need to make meaningful changes in your home. From hitting, biting, rudeness and more - I have got you covered. Follow the link in my bio to learn more. ⭐️ Are you an educator looking to adapt Good Inside principles to the classroom? Got you covered with exactly this in our Teacher Workshop - also available via link in bio!