Key idea: Our kids should not dictate our boundaries and we should not dictate their feelings. It’s critical, in any system, to know define roles and responsibilities. This helps a system run smoothly. The opposite is true as well: systems break down when members are confused about their roles or when they start impinging on other people’s functions. Family systems are no different. In a family system, think about roles like this: Parents establish safety through boundaries, validation, and empathy. Children explore and learn, though expressing their emotions and wants. Here's a challenge: Each night, review one difficult moment from the perspective of Family Systems Jobs. Instead of asking yourself, "Did that feel good?" or "Is this normal?" or "Is something wrong with me?" or "Is something wrong with my child?".... ask yourself, "Did I do my job? Did my child do theirs?” ⭐️ If setting boundaries is hard for you, you are not alone... and the Good Inside Membership has got you covered. It will give you the tools you need to set boundaries, respond to pushback, and manage guilt. Link in bio to learn more!