Trigger Warning: Bullying - Some bullying is done in public and some is carried out in private and both types can be stopped . This post addresses the public bullying . Here we see someone doing their job - citing bad behavior with a yellow card. The recipient is standing over the whistle blower , intimidating them, in order to carry on / get away with bad behavior. All they are doing is their job which should not include being subjected to intimidation . What happens next: their colleague comes straight there , after seeing this behavior and intimidation, they support the citing of bad behavior and step in repeating the call for discipline. The intimidation stand off was not allowed to continue and this protected both parties from an escalating situation way beyond the initial bad behavior In sport there are referees and lines referees . There is even a third match official who watches the playback on tape to see what actually happened . In everyday life the referees are the class mates , the teachers , the friends , the siblings , the parents , the work colleagues , the managers . There isn’t always a third official to read / watch / listen to what happened and it need not get to that . If everyone recognizes and calls upon the best version of themselves and each other and calls out bad and harmful behavior when they see it , to the person dishing it out in that moment or as soon as possible . If we can all comprehend that each and everyone one of us is capable of bullying behavior and it’s a choice that we all face to how we conduct ourselves. If we can all open our minds to the possibility that maybe some of our communication isn’t entirely without manipulation and control. If we can all accept that call out when it happens and is done respectfully, so we can review our own behaviors we can all beat bullying together . We can prevent painful unnecessary tears and upsets . People can avoid weeks , months and years of slowly losing themselves , their mental health and their strength to stand up and live a full life . (Continued in comments ...) #pinkshirtday #mentalhealthawareness