Have you ever felt jealous for seemingly no reason? Your partner goes on a date with someone else, and that dreaded feeling starts to slip in. You mentally go through all your agreements and confirm that none have been broken. You reflect on the time you’ve spent together recently and feel satisfied with where you’re at. So, jealousy, what the fuck?! Why are you still here? 😤 To that I say: take a look at the world around you. Every single day we are bombarded with overt and covert messaging that reinforces monogamy, and in that, jealousy as a sign or symptom of love. It’s everywhere - ads, movies, tv, books, news, social media - sometimes we don’t even recognize it because we’re so used to it. So when those jealous pangs hit us in the gut, and we can’t point to any one thing that could be causing it, it’s possible that it’s a learned response. Nothing more than muscle memory. Breaking these habits takes time and intention. It’s good to ask yourself questions like “who is benefitting from me feeling this way?” and “what do I have to gain from this feeling/experience?” Leave behind any judgment and embrace a curious attitude toward your feelings. They may have more to tell us than we think. I have some great virtual non-monogamy workshops coming up and would love to see you at one or both! Intro to Non-Monogamy Thursday September 8th @ 7 pm ET Beyond the Basics: Jealousy in Polyamory Tuesday, September 20th @ 7 pm ET Both workshops will be recorded and sent to all ticket holders. Tickets available in my Linktree 😘