As an actress, most of the time, I don’t indulge myself to linger in the distraction of what I look like - I simply focus on whether I am facilitating the story and contributing what’s required to give my character her due as it pertains to her journey. But yesterday, the day after Valentines Day- was different. It was my 7th as a single woman and first in this new decade (I am 50 now) and I took a look in the mirror in this exquisite red dress, not thinking about a role, but simply taking inventory as Essence, staring at what was reflected. It is only because of God’s grace and goodness that I don’t look like what I have been through. But perhaps more importantly I am grateful that my sometimes difficult and painful experiences have not caused me to harden my heart or abandon kindness or hope- even for those who smite me. To walk this single season out in submission to God’s way doesn’t always feel good but I believe when the timing is right, in the eyes of my purpose partner, that he too will see and value all of me, even as I falter and struggle to chase the parts of myself that are truly “pretty” as a kingdom warrior of service that I aim to be. I trust God for the mate of my soul to consider me as Philippians 4:8 says “Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” It is my hearts desire to be in pursuit of this level of timeless beauty. No matter how the mirror reflects the passing years. And I pray it is my spirit -under Christ-that will one day be resplendent to the beholder. ✨❤️🙏🏽