To find and know yourself, you need to take away from all people the RIGHT to decide who you are. - One will tell you that you are bad, you will be upset, the other will say that you are good, you will be happy. You are praised or scolded, believed or betrayed... and as long as they have the right to decide who you are, you will not find yourself... you will constantly wander in this life like a blind man, having neither external nor internal freedom. Take away this RIGHT from them!