Hi - I’m Pamela 👋🏽 I love being a surgeon. I love my family. I love being a practice owner. I love wknd mornings at the bagel shop w my kids in our PJs. I love the career I’ve built. I love to work out- I have PTSD from early mornings from residency so you can find me on the @onepeloton in the middle of the day. I love to challenge myself. I love to be lazy, procrastinate and watch mindless reality shows. I love to be strong but also crave to be taken care of by my partner. I love good coffee. I love a good cocktail in my PJs or in a cute outfit out on the town. I love sweets- nothing is too rich for me! I love the OR- not only bc I get to help people but bc I love the quiet & stillness. I love to make fun of myself & find humor in situations. * Not one of these things define me- yet all are a part of me. * I never felt much different than my male counterparts along my path to becoming a surgeon until...I became a mother. So why when a woman chooses to start a family does it become pinned as her identity at work? Why do women struggle silently when it comes to “balancing” a career and family? Why can’t we embrace building a family- incorporating it into planning for productivity in the workplace? Why can’t we support, congratulate, rejoice in family milestones & growth? I don’t know the answers but I hope we find them in this lifetime. I know this for sure- toxic work environments are not worth it. Ever. I don’t care how much you think the job, connections, money are worth it- if it steals your joy and drains your spirit- you don’t need it. There is a job and/or career waiting for you that will fulfill you. And if it doesn’t- create it. This is how we change the culture. This is how we manifest and maintain happiness. We will change the narrative for working moms. We will show the world- our children are apart of us but not our entire identity.