It’s February 1 and officially Valentines season. A few months back I decided to go online and dip my toe in to dating. Really slow, really laid back. I signed onto @okcupid and uploaded very recent pictures, shared that I was a single mom by choice. No expectations, no demands. I can’t say I’ve given it my all and I’ve found that most of the people reaching out were not individuals that would be the right fit. Anyone that has spent the time to write me a note, I have given the respect of reading it however. Last week I was kind of dumbfounded to get multiple messages from men who were obviously not interested in dating me but reached out to simply inform me that I deserved to be single and would never meet someone because I chose to have a child on my own. My initial reaction was to delete and ignore but it has sat with me and I keep pondering the notion that these men took the time out of their day to write to me and let me know that I was wrong. I was wrong for choosing to be independent, I was wrong for choosing to be a mother, I was wrong for putting myself out there, I was wrong for choosing my own happiness and my own future. They deemed me selfish, arrogant, one did muster up the underhanded compliment that I must be intelligent because of the school I went to but my son would suffer regardless. Wow! So much to unpack. Not sure I have the closet space for all their insecurities! Is that really where men are at these days?? I’m going to try some other sites and see if I get similar responses. I am pretty astounded at how complicated it all is. The more and more I investigate, the more I realize I made exactly the right choices. ♥️ I’ve found my valentine for now, his name is Romeo. Would love to hear about other’s experiences.