LESSONS IM TEACHING MY TWEEN DAUGHTERS PART 2🖤 1) Home is always safe: There may be days where school, activities or whatever else life is throwing at you is making stressed or upset. Home will always be your safe place, to unwind, to be yourself, to leave all the outside mess behind & recharge. That’s now & that’s forever. 2) Confidence is built by doing hard things, & not by looking “perfect”: A lot of people fake confidence. They may be overly loud or bold, acting like they are too cool to “care”, hyper focused on the concept of popularity, being sarcastic or dismissive, a lot of it is pure armor. True confidence is knowing who you are, saying “I don’t know” without embarrassment, not changing your personality depending on who you’re with, apologizing when you need to, & not putting others down to feel bigger. 3) Popular isn’t the same as respected: Popular means being noticed, being respected means being valued , they are not the same. As a tween/teen popular may look like people talking about you, big friend group, known, invited to everyone. As a tween/teen being respected may look like being trusted , keeping your word, acting like you no matter where you are or who you are with, standing up for others , kind when it won’t benefit you to be, & not gossiping behind people’s backs. Respect is built on character & character lasts longer than attention. Since this is a big one I’m going to elaborate even more. Some popular kids (not all) say mean things quietly, exclude people, change their personality depending on who they are with, popularity doesn’t mean people feel safe around them, respect makes people feel safe. One gets attention & the other gets loyalty. One can disappear in a year, the other follows you into high school, college & the rest of your life. I want to teach the girls to be respected, not just noticed. Stay tuned for part 3.🖤