WHY I HATE NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS ⬇️ I used to be an absolute sucker for NY resolutions. Each year, at 12.01am on January the 1st, I would vow to start following the long list of unrealistic goals I wrote for myself. Essentially, I was striving for “perfection” in every area of my life. Of course, it would take just days before I failed one or all of my resolutions. I’d feel anxious and defeated, the concept of perfection once again drifting from my grasp. It wasn’t until I went to counselling a few years ago that I was made aware this destructive pattern in my life and the harm it has caused me. That is why I did not start this year with a list of resolutions to follow and fail. Instead, I began this year with intentions. The medical meaning of intention is the healing process of a wound, and something about that definition really struck me. My number one intention for this year is to be kind to myself. After years of destructive patterns of thinking, I am hoping that holding this intention will be a catalyst for the healing process. So, what does this look like for me? 1. Taking a full day off work and social media at least once a week 2. Properly celebrating the wins in my own life & the lives of those around me 3. Cutting out/ unfollowing/ unsubscribing from things that are not serving me 4. Adding in/ following/ subscribing to things that will bring me joy 5. Focusing my energy on serving/ championing/ uplifting other people rather than criticising myself I know this isn’t exactly my normal content and I’m not exactly sure why I felt compelled to share all of this. If this does happen to resonate with anyone, know you’re not alone in your struggles. And my DM’s are open if you need someone to chat to. Sending you all love Nicola x . . . . . . #newyearsresolution #mentalhealthawareness #selflove #selfcare #mentalwellness