Of course *normal* is relative and whether or not you get help is up to you, but... . *Sex shouldn’t be painful (unless you’re into pain). If you experience discomfort with arousal, orgasm, ejaculation, penetration or any part of sex, it’s a sign that something is awry. Feel free to stop what you’re doing, do something more pleasurable and then chat with your health practitioner about your symptoms. If they can’t help you, ask for a referral to a pelvic floor physio. Check out my bio links for awesome advice from Pelvic Pain Doc, Sonia Bahlani. . *You don’t need to live with incontinence and leakage — neither post-baby nor post-menopause. Treatments are available and a pelvic floor physiotherapist can help. Follow @happydownthere.ca & @youseelogic to learn more and listen to our chat with Michiko (in bio links) — you’ll learn so much! . *It’s okay to fake orgasms if you want to, but most people fake to please their partner, get it over with or respond to performance pressure. And if you choose to fake it, you don’t deserve to feel judged or shame, but you may want to think about the message you’re sending your partner(s): you want more of what isn’t working. Consider talking to them about what you do like & exploring your own body to discover new pathways to pleasure. . *You don’t have to use lube. It’s up to you! But don’t avoid it in order to prove that you’re more turned on or validate an ego (yours or your partner’s). Lube is associated with greater sexual desire, arousal, pleasure, orgasm and satisfaction, so give it a try! Order free samples from the link in @astroglideofficial’s bio. . Don’t worry about being “normal”. Instead tune into your body and pleasure, so you get more of what YOU want.