“Just calm down.” It’s one of the most common phrases we want to say in heated moments especially when we’re overwhelmed too. But here’s the truth: Saying “just calm down” has never—in the history of ever actually helped someone calm down. 🙃 In fact, it often triggers the nervous system more, making your child feel unsafe, unheard, or even ashamed for having big feelings. What they need isn’t a command it’s co-regulation. Try this instead: 💬 “I’m here.” 💬 “This feels big. Let’s breathe together.” 💬 “You’re safe. I’ve got you.” Your words can be the bridge to safety and regulation. Want to understand how you regulate and how that impacts your child’s ability to stay calm in tough moments? 🧠✨ Comment: REGULATE to take our free Regulation Questionnaire and start building your family’s toolbox today. #respectfulparenting #emotioncoaching #parentingtools #dysregulation #nervoussystemregulation #gentleparenting #regulatebeforeyoueducate #childdevelopment #seedandsew #emotionalintelligence #coregulation #regulationstartswithyou #parentinghumor #stopdropgrow #connectedparenting