Ways childhood trauma can show up in adulthood. • 1) Overcompensating in an effort to do things differently: If you remember feeling controlled as a child, feeling unsafe, disrespected, or were physically/emotionally abused or neglected, you may be over working yourself trying to ensure your children don’t have similar experiences. 2) Loss of Rational thinking when triggered: We react with “fight, flight, or freeze.” We developed this instinctive response to protect ourselves when we were young but now we’re adults, the instinctive response often prevents us from effectively managing situations and solving problems. 3) Distorted thinking: When children hear repeated messages about their own inadequacy, they internalize these negative messages. They may believe they are unworthy of love, incapable of success and this can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. 4) Reenacting our past trauma: We unintentionally recreate the family situation that we are familiar with. We might have these unhealthy relationships with partners, with a job or a friend. Our brains trick us into believing that we can have another chance at succeeding in an unhealthy relationship. Our brain tells us that if we can make this relationship work, we’ll somehow make the past alright. 5) Imitating our abusers: Without noticing the behavior and making a conscious effort not to do the same, it’s very likely that we will imitate their parenting style, whether it fits with our personal values and goals for raising our children – or not. 6) Mental/physical ailments: The correlation between higher numbers of adverse childhood experiences and health problems is undeniable. • #brownmamatrauma #trauma #healing #healingjourney #traumahealing #childhoodtrauma #southasianmentalhealth #browngirl #browngirlbloggers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #momsmentalhealth #momsofig #southasianparents #breakingintergenerationaltrauma