Why women often play the “fixer” role in relationships. • So many young women find themselves in toxic, abusive relationships because they are attracted to playing this “fixer” role. I was one of them. I spent the second half of my teen years and early twenties devoted to an emotionally abusive relationship because I thought I could “fix” him, “help” him even if it meant that it was breaking me further. Looking back at myself during those lost years, my heart breaks for that young girl who was just looking for a way to validate herself, who wanted to feel needed, whose self-worth was always tied to what she could do for others, who wore rose-colored glasses so she didn’t see any red flags, who mimicked the image of a self-sacrificing woman fed to her throughout her life, who just wanted to be loved, who couldn’t see her own beauty. The moment she discovered her value, her worth she left and never turned back. Thank goodness she did, because it is the reason the woman I am today exists. It is the reason I’m able to, not only heal myself, but break the cycle to raise a generation of daughters who know their worth, value, beauty so they do not fall into the same trap. • There was so much I wanted to add onto this one but didn’t have the space to add on. Do you agree with these? Share what else you would add in the comments below. • #Brownmamatrauma #healing #toxicrelationships #abusiverelationships #healingjourney #peoplepleaser #traumarecovery #traumahealing #mentalhealthmatters #teensofinstagram #parenting #parenthood