If your 11 year old is arguing more, it does not mean they are trying to be disrespectful. It means their brain and nervous system are changing quickly. At this age: • autonomy needs increase • reasoning grows faster than regulation • sensory overload hits harder • identity and fairness become major drivers • stress lowers their tolerance for even small requests Arguing is often a sign of a full brain, not a defiant child. When we respond with steadiness (lowering sensory load, building in transitions, offering choices, or taking a pause) we help their nervous system come back online so real problem-solving can happen. If you want more regulation-first tools for the tween years, Big Kids, Bigger Feelings walks you through exactly how to support kids ages 5–12 with scripts, strategies, and science. Comment BOOK for the link. #parentingtweens #11yearold #tweenbehavior #childdevelopment #emotionregulation #nervoussystemregulation #bigkidsbiggerfeelings #seedandsew #connectedparenting