Cultivating Feminine Energy Slow down. If your pace is always something close to turbo speed, consider taking a pause. Examine your defenses and unmet needs in life. Practice the art of saying thank you. Aim for balance. Check your biases. Be tender with yourself and others. Surround yourself with those that help you channel this side of you. And if you’re in a relationship, make sure your partner allows you ample space to exude your feminine energy.