When someone’s actions or words hurt me, often my first instinct is to think about all the ways they could or should be different so that I can feel better about myself or the relationship. Even if it’s happening in my own mind, this is a form of control, which is personally disempowering and relationally unhelpful. . Lately, I’ve been really working on seeing my hurt as an invitation to grow. It doesn’t mean that the other person’s words or behavior are right or okay. I don’t have to accept them. But maybe it’s a cue for me to work on my tendency toward people pleasing or my habit of allowing others to determine my value. My own growth is the place I have empowerment and a much better use of my energy than trying to change someone else 🤍. . #restorationtherapy #therapistsofinstagram #marriageandfamilytherapy #marriageadvice #therapymemes #counselorsofinstagram #propelwomen #wellwateredwomen #mondaymotivation #therapythursday #yourinfluence