There's a lot more nuance to this that I cover in my programs, though the point is we do actually have a choice whether or not we're going to indulge in ego drama or step into our adult wisdom when opportunities for conflict present. It's not that we won't ever have conflict, but there are different ways we can choose to work with the energy. We can indulge our wounds and throw a pity party, we can shut down and test our partners expecting them to chase after us, we can choose to get reactive or be upset even if it's a little thing because we want more attention or energy from our partners - OR we can choose love, we can choose laughter, we can choose play. This might sound foreign to you, and it may even seem impossible (and it is if you have only one willing partner) however when everyone in the relationship is on board for a harmonious, respectful and happy relationship, transcending chaos and learning how to thrive in a peaceful state is possible. As long as you both respect each other and genuinely care about meeting each others needs, listening, and giving space for individuality in the partnership, conflict doesn't have to be this drawn out, immature, game-playing dance. In fact, a lot of the time, you can choose to laugh it off together or get playful rather than indulging in the drama. @evolvingman and I do this with one another a lot, and it's a lot more fun than going head to head over every little thing. Relationship is a practice - it's a practice for your ego in letting go and seeing your own stubbornness, defensiveness and demanding ways, and it's a practice for your heart in opening, softening, and letting life be in flow. We don't own our partners, their energy, their schedules or their time. When we approach relationship as though we're with a best friend rather than someone who owes us something, the whole dynamic changes. Rather than making assumptions or expecting our partners to guess, we can practice direct communication. Rather than choosing to escalate conflict, we can choose to redirect our energy. Rather than hoping for our partners to chase us, we can ask for what we want. @sheleanaaiyana