advice from my family members over 50: 1. stretch. 2. be so f*cking grateful. 3. take care of yourself now; it matters as you get older. 4. smile. 5. go after what and who you want in life; don’t let the fear of failure or rejection stop you from trying. 6. let go of the small stuff. 7. surround yourself with good people; it makes a difference. 8. treat others well. 9. forgiveness doesn’t require reconnection. 10. eat the cookie.