When kids grow up focused on rewards or punishments, they don’t learn to understand their emotions, they learn to perform for approval. This shifts their energy away from connection and self-awareness, toward simply earning praise or avoiding consequences. Over time, that transactional cycle chips away at trust. Real growth happens when kids know their emotions are safe to feel, and that their relationship with us isn’t dependent on stars, stickers, or punishments. 💡 This is one of the reasons I wrote Big Kids, Bigger Feelings to help parents move past quick fixes and build lasting connection. 👉 Comment BOOK to preorder + snag your bonus guides before they expire! #BigKidsBiggerFeelings #ParentingWithoutPunishment #RaisingConnectedKids #EmotionallyHealthyKids #SeedAndSew