Dear former self: I am so sorry that you once blamed yourself and wondered, “if I had only worded my concern differently. If only I had just pretended nothing was wrong. If only I had just let him get it out of his system without interrupting him — everything would’ve been fine,” It is not your job to mitigate someone else’s “frustrations,” especially if your “role” was directly communicating basic hurts or concerns #healing #therapy #narctok