Here’s one I thing I’ve learned: eventually they get so confident in how effective their pathological lying is that they will trip up and try to do one as blatant as this. And the worst part is sometimes it takes a friend going, “That was gaslighting and an insult to your intelligence,” to truly realize it. That was my moment of clarity. I could work with reactive defensiveness and hot-n-cold behaviors. I couldn’t work with someone who could calmly look me in the eye and lie #heartbreak #recovery #healing #therapy #narctok