I’ve been in a long-term relationship with my partner, who is of Chinese descent. Not long after we began sharing a home, his parents began to come over on weekends; they indicated that their apartment, which is nearby, is noisy on the weekends and they needed relief. I didn’t say at the time that this bothered me. But now they stay with us every weekend, occasionally even during the week, and the frequency has worn me down. Some specific intangibles make things worse. They speak no English, which makes sharing a home stressful. They have no friends and very little money. Visiting us is apparently their only hobby or life goal. They take over the kitchen, making delicious food but not cleaning up in a satisfactory manner. This has, as you might expect, become a sore subject and one that my partner, who said it is common for Chinese parents to visit their offspring, will no longer discuss. But I would like to reach some sort of compromise, even though it seems impossible now that they are a household fixture. Click the link in our bio to read the Ethicist's answer to this reader's question.