its halloween & i wish more of us fools could agree that there’s literally nothing scarier than someone who can’t take no for an answer. so this month’s column is a love letter to saying no & hopefully some small balm for those of us who haven’t had our ‘no’s heard. link in bio to send me questions for future months 💌 “Saying no has yet to gain the respect it deserves. We’ve internalised yes-saying as somehow more morally and historically significant. Active, unafraid, powerful – be a Yes Man! But what if you’d rather not? What if you put the ‘no’ in non-binary? Does that make you any less of a bad bitch? Of course not. There is tremendous strength in saying no, especially for sad little people pleasers like me. It can take everything you’ve got in your physical, material and spiritual bank to say no to someone, and just like that, it’s not heard. Just like that, someone else’s internal world is deemed more worthy and you are pushed back into a position of compromise, negotiation and/or violation once again.”