I always think about how the support of some of our “allies” is conditional upon our ability to reflect their own value systems and act like cherubic individuals for the consumption of Nondisabled people. We are the only ones who should be in the pilots seat in our own lives, you can advise, you can support, but you cannot make our choices for us. ID: two people, one a wheelchair user with a trach tube drinking beers. Text reads “ if you’re advocating for disabled people, you’re advocating for us to have access to the lives WE CHOOSE, not the lives you deem appropriate or acceptable to you. -Imani Barbarin” atop a thought bubble.