Replying to @amyramos2 Whoopings did not solve the internal issues I had as a child and that made me more rebellious. I started off using the same form of discipline as my parents UNTIL I realized it had the opposite effect on me and I stopped immediately. Children are NOT perfect. They will make mistakes. They will make bad decisions. What they need is guidance. They need to taught how to talk about what they are experiencing. How to talk through the descions they are planning to make. They need have a SAFE PLACE to do that. If your child thinks you’re going to hit them or publicly humilate them for making or thinking of making a bad decision, THEY WILL HIDE IT FROM YOU. And that will make you even madder and you will administer more abuse to the child. It is a never ending cycle. As a PARENT self reflect and ask if there is anything you need change to help your child make better decisions. NOT PERFECT Decisions, just BETTER. You are not a perfect parent. No one is. So why do you expect your child to be a perfect child? You were not a perfect child. So how did you learn to make your child perfect? Everything you’re trying is a test. It’s ALL hypothesis. And doing research, talking to your kids, talking to other parents who may have made the same mistakes your planning to make or who may have manuvered a situation with success is the BEST strategy for parenting. My kids ARE NOT PERFECT. They make mistakes. They make decisions I do like or agree with. Sometimes I can offer better solutions. Sometimes they decisions they make for themselves have been the right ones. Emotionally killing their spirits and mind IS NEVER OK! No matter how much it bruises your parental EGO. No matter how frustration it may bring. Learn to breath, walk away and gather your thoughts. Children are not your property. ##mom##parentsoftiktok##momsoftiktok