Predator eyes VS doe eyes Every person has a little bit of both: the dangerous, selfish, egoistic side and the naive, childish side. I think I keep pretty good balance between being toxic and nice & mindful. So today I’ll share with you something I’ve learned about myself from therapy sessions. My most toxic traits (a lot of them connected to BPD): 1) I cut off people too easily. Due to a “black & white” kind of thinking the smallest disappointment makes me demonize the person and not want to do anything with them anymore. Sometimes it’s a useful trait, but often my mind makes those disappointments A LOT bigger than they are, and I end up hurting people who truly care about me. 2) I don’t feel loved and cared about unless my partner shows slight anger issues lol. Unless he always insists, gets mad if I refuse, try to be overprotective and dominant, I can’t relax and not question myself if he really cares. It’s one of the BPD things, and sometimes when I see “lack of reaction”, my mind splits and I unintentionally make drama, to see that reaction and to feel reassured. I’ve done it dozens of times without realizing, until I analyzed it with my therapist, and even now it happens and I can’t control it. The fear of being abandoned is so strong when you struggle with BPD, that you try to end everything as soon as you feel a little “cold” in a relationship. 3) Oversharing. I don’t know the reason to it, but it happens a lot to me when I try to make new connections I start over sharing personal things, feelings and I often regret about it, because not all the people are as nice as you hope them to be when you just meet. 💟 And here’re my, in my opinion, best traits: 1) Self-confidence. Not fake one. 2) Emphaty. I feel other people and animals so strong. And I think, it’s beautiful. 3) True desire to make life of others better. I don’t know if there’s a name for it. But I truly never judge people by where they’re now on a social scale, as long as they’re kind, honest and respectful I’m willing to share whatever I know and help however I can. Ph @ricardosolis_ph @mzagency #fashionmodel #fashionphotography #womansportrait #portraitshot #fashionshoot #toxictraits