When we first meet a person we almost immediately know if they will be damaging or healing for our soul. So why do we often stay with the first type and so rarely keep the second one? I was thinking about this a lot and I think these are the reasons: 1) The toxic relationship stimulates our brain. It’s a constant explosion of hormones: from adrenaline and dopamine, that make you feel high and excited, to cortisol and other stress & sadness hormones that make you feel down. And it’s in fact creates an addiction which is no different from a drug addiction. You feel down when you fight with your partner and you gonna do anything, cry, beg, fight and humiliate yourself just to get back the way you felt with them before. That’s why after we get out of the toxic relationship we think “how did I do so many stupid things and forgive all those horrible things they did to me?”. So that is why. 2) Most of us somehow were traumatized in our childhood, so now our psyche tries to “close gestalt”, which means to make something that didn’t workout in the past, to workout in present. That’s why, for example, some women who grew up in a family where dad was abusive, in the future often tend to find a husband who will be the same way. Their psyche will find a father’s figure in their partner and will try to get the love that wasn’t received in the childhood and left the child traumatized. Unfortunately the only way to get out of such cycle is to get professional help (therapy). Otherwise it’s gonna last a lifetime: an endless search in attempt to fill the void. 3) It’s romanticized. 80% of all the movies and songs are about toxic love(unrequited love; cheating; post breakup pain etc).Maybe 5% of them are about the healthy kind of love where there’s no struggle. So when you go through the drama you feel kind of like a movie character, but its just a result of a brainwashing and in a reality there’s nothing magical in a toxic relationship. It’s just an obsession that leads your brain to become overstimulated and as a result exhausted: you have no more power, creativity and you age fast. #fashionmodel #modeling #bikinishoot #fashionshoot #toxicrelationships #toxicpeople