Once you’re well-versed in your partner’s struggles, shadows, and shortcomings, you can scratch the surface of unconditional love.⁣ ⁣ It’s easy to say we love each other as we are when we haven’t been exposed to the depth of insecurity, fear, and doubt that we all tuck away.⁣ ⁣ They say some of the best times are at the beginning of a relationship, the “honeymoon phase.” But what if you fall for the best, well-crafted aspects of a person and not their full humanness, their story, their scars? Are you really falling in love with who they are?⁣ ⁣ In truth, most of us crave the depth of partnership, not just the romance and fairytale endings. Healthy long-term couples know well that the honeymoon phase isn’t where unconditional love lives. It arrives when we become invaluable, non-judgmental witnesses of each other’s lives. Witnesses that support, challenge and inspire the other person as they are and as they evolve.⁣ ⁣ Exposing our weaknesses and the unhealed parts of our being to someone we trust is the greatest extension of vulnerability and an invitation for genuine closeness. When you have the opportunity to experience aspects of someone’s imperfections and hidden parts, instead of being scared away, be compassionate and tender. Instead of being overwhelmed by what you find, be curious and understanding.⁣ ⁣ Unconditional love leaves room for imperfection, creates opportunities for co-healing, and never shames someone who is on their journey to self-actualization. Unconditional love is humble because it starts with us and knows we aren’t flawless ourselves.⁣ ⁣ Among many things, acceptance is the essence of unconditional love. And I hope everyone can stand in the limitless and profound energy of a safe and healthy love that knows no bounds.⁣ ⁣ My new book, Closer to Love, is out on Feb 13th! Please go ahead and pre-order to maximize your potential to experience love 💚⁣ ⁣ #VexKing