Have you ever been told to ‘calm down’ by a man in a discussion? A listener got in touch with us looking for advice: While discussing the gender pay gap with a male colleague, she was told to ‘not take it personally’ and to ‘calm down’. She believes that it is a "rebuttal often used by men to silence women who attempt to challenge male dominance in the workplace”. To get some tips on how to handle this situation, @emmabarnett spoke to behavioural psychologist Jo Hemmings and @carolinegoyder, voice coach and author of Find Your Voice: The Secret to Talking with Confidence in any Situation. We also heard from many of you about your experiences and most successful rebuttals. You can listen to their interview on @bbcsounds - it’s the 7 November episode 🎧 Is this something that has ever happened to you? How did you react? How would you advise our listener? Let us know in the comments below ⬇️ . . . #bbcwomanshour #womanshour #bbcradio4