We all want to motivate and encourage our children. Especially when they come to us to share something they have worked on or are proud of. But before you say "good job" without thinking - take a pause. While there's nothing wrong with the phrase exactly (don't sweat if you use it here or there), over time if it's the go-to response, it does something. It gives the adult the power to say the child or their work is of value or "good". It tells the child, they should aim to impress us and look for praise from others. In Montessori we say, it creates a need for "external motivation". Instead, we want our children to look inwards for validation, fulfillment and happiness. We want to create "internal motivation". So how can we do that? When your child comes to you showing you something they did: 1️⃣Stop and observe 2️⃣Control the urge to speak right away and think about what you want to say 3️⃣Show encouragement and pride on your face by smiling 4️⃣Say something that encourages them to look deeper, reflect on the process, find the joy in what they created. With practice, this is a skill that becomes second nature and will help your child find fulfillment in the work they are doing rather than completing it looking for your response. Save this tip as a reminder and share with a parent who would love to learn more about Montessori Philosophy 💕