here’s a secret: you can still be you—the real you—and be loved. you don’t have to betray who you are for the sake of connection. you don’t have to make yourself wrong to make others right. in a safe relationship, you’re allowed to be yourself. you deserve to. maybe at one point it was truly helpful to please others at your own expense; to say “yes” when you really wanted to say “no,” “not today” or “not for me.” maybe, at one point, pleasing everyone around you DID keep you safe. it is okay to be grateful for that part of you that kept you safe all this time 🤍 📍when our empathic channels are constantly open and running on auto-pilot, the only way we may feel safe is by making sure that everyone else around us is doing fine. otherwise, feeling their feelings of discomfort can be way too overwhelming. but notice if that same adaptive survival strategy is still helpful in adulthood. notice if it’s keeping you from getting to experience your full self. notice if it’s keeping you from saying what you mean and meaning what you say. join us on November 16 & 17 for EMPOWERED EMPATHY, an online workshop that will teach you energetic BOUNDARIES so that feeling safe in your body no longer depends on people-pleasing, over explaining yourself or betraying your values for the sake of keeping the peace. You’ll be walking away with tools & practices to enhance your relationships through living authentically. the doors to join us are still open - head on over to the link in the bio ✅ See you there! @jovaferreyra Retired People Pleaser Empowerment Coach