This quote came on my feed the other day, and it resonated deeply. So frequently, when I work with couples, a partner who has been hurt, betrayed, aggrieved in some way, loses confidence in the other partner. This hurts for them both. Instead of using that shame to self-examine and make behavioral changes, a partner with higher defenses and lower self-awareness often externalizes and plays the victim, guilting the partner for losing hope and trust in them, when in fact it is a natural response to being hurt or disappointed. Leave a 💛 if you can relate #sextherapist #humansexuality #sexpositivity #psychologist #couplestherapist .......................................................................... . The content posted on this page, or any of Dr. Kate’s or Modern Intimacy’s social media channels are for educational and entertainment purposes only and are not a substitute for therapy. . 📲 If you need immediate support, please text HOME to 741741 or call 1-800-273-8255 to connect with the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 💛⁠ .⁠ ✨ Follow Dr. Kate Balestrieri on IG + Tiktok: ⁠@drkatebalestrieri⁠ . 🎙 Check out the Modern Intimacy podcast on Apple Podcast or Spotify . 🔗 To schedule a free 30-minute consultation with Dr. Kate Balestrieri or a member of the @themodernintimacy team, go to www.modernintimacy.com/contact . 💻 To read up about mental health, relationships and sexuality, check out the Modern Intimacy blog at www.modernintimacy.com ..........................................................................