The journey to yourself doesn’t come easy. I found my 20’s very confusing, trying to lead a life I thought was for me. I thought my purpose was to be a mother, a wife... I ended up in a relationship which was going in that direction but it didn’t feel right. It felt uncomfortable. Instead of growing and evolving I felt myself shrinking and becoming insecure. I felt sexually repressed. And ultimately ended up forcing something to work that just wasn’t meant to be. It wasn’t easy to let go, because it wasn’t about the person. It was about a life plan. It was giving up the children I had imagined having. The home I thought I’d have. It took me a while to realise that I was never meant for that path. What I had learnt from society about relationships wasn’t for me. I had to unlearn a lot and rediscover a desire for life in a new way. Whilst I was on that journey I felt myself returning to myself. My confidence. My sexuality. My power. It’s scary but my biggest learning was to leave the book unwritten. I can have goals or desires... but to be open to whatever happens. Whether that’s career, relationship, family, location... Being open to the future allowed me to learn more about me and ultimately connect me with myself. Your journey is what makes you, but you are not your past. Lingerie @el.bras 🤍 . #lingerie #selfdiscovery #findingself